STATEMENT OF PURPOSE AND INTENT - "I'd Rather Be a Guide Than a Leader"

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: I don't want to be seen as a leader. To quote Ernie from MY THREE SONS: "Hey, Uncle Charlie...seems like a lot of work to me."

Seriously though, leaders are expected to have all the answers. They are expected to be RIGHT on the first try with every answer too. Lastly, as long as you are in a position of "leader," people will KEEP COMING TO YOU for answers.

Remember in the movie FIGHT CLUB when Edward Norton said, "Over a long enough timeline, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero?" Well, doesn't it also stand to reason that if people keep coming to you for answers, you will eventually be wrong about something?

And once you are, watch out. Your fall from grace will be fast and brutal.

Leaders are expected to be perfect in every way. Not just with their answers, but with their morals as well. If people find out a revered leader once got caught masturbating in a public restroom, they can kiss their image good bye. It doesn't even matter if that happened way back in the past; the point is the public found out about it NOW, so it might as well have happened NOW.

Guides, on the other hand, have much less pressure. The difference between a guide and a leader is subtle, but it needs clarification.

If someone tells a leader that they want to lose weight, the leader says, "Do this exercise and follow this diet, and you WILL lose weight."

On the other hand, the guide would say, "Well, I tried exercise program A and diet Z, and that helped me lose weight. I mean, I'm not sure that would work for everybody, but it's a starting point."

Guides don't issue commands; they make suggestions. That is what I'd rather do. I'm not comfortable with telling people they absolutely MUST do what I tell them or they will never reach their goals, their lives will fall apart, their loved ones will die slow, horrible deaths, etc.

~~~Steve Grogan

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