Explaining Why Someone's Opinion of You is Actually NOT Personal

ABOUT THIS VIDEO: To some people out there, this might seem like one of those "well, DUH" videos. I admit it took me a lot longer to understand this sentiment than most people, but you know what? There is nothing wrong with that.

Like the teachers used to say to us in school, "Not everyone picks up on things at the same pace, so you need to be patient with your classmates and not make fun of them if it takes them longer to understand something."

Of course, that was usually followed by the teachers themselves getting mad and yelling at a student who didn't immediately grasp an "easy" concept, but that's neither here nor there.

Sometimes you will hear a person throw a criticism at you that bothers you. Later in the day, you mention this to a friend of yours. To console you, your friend says, "Their criticism has nothing to do with you."

For a long time, I couldn't understand that. After all, if someone called me a nutcase because they watched me kick a dog in the ribs for no reason...well, then isn't their opinion of me based on what I did, and therefore it has EVERYTHING to do with me?

The fact that the answer to this question is "no" always confused me, but now I understand it, and I made this video to share my understanding with the world.

~~~Steve Grogan

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